Transition into College Dating Life

The World’s First E-Learning Solution at the Intersection of Sexual Consent and Intercultural Communication

Empower Young Adults
for Safer and Freer Sexual Autonomy​

Start a transformative journey
––The Intimacy IQ Test is an experimental introduction before the launch of a more comprehensive interactive e-learning solution on intercultural consent.

Intimacy IQ Test

Are you curious about the unique forces that shape the way you communicate your intimate desires? This is a comprehensive cultural/behavioural assessment consisting of 24 thought-provoking questions and scenarios. It allows you to uncover your sex communication style on the following 4 grounds. Experience sexual consent education tailored exclusively for you.

Result indicates the way one conveys a message. Do you rely heavily on background information, relational implications, and shared experiences, thus include many non-verbal cues? Or do you rely little on context, and prefer explicit, direct and verbal communication?

Result indicates how one relates to others on a hierarchical scale. Do you value equal treatment, strive for shared decision-making, and balance power dynamics in intimate relationships? Or perhaps, you show more of a tendency to respect and defer to authority figures, and perceive power imbalances as inherent in various social contexts, including intimate relationships.

Result indicates where one’s priorities lie. The “I” tendency is to place a higher value on personal goals, autonomy, and self-expression in sex and relationship. The “us” tendency is to place a high value on relational harmony, social bonds and in-group expectations . 

Sex shame refers to the feeling of guilt, embarrassment, or self-blame that can arise from one’s sexual thoughts, desires, or behaviours, particularly when those thoughts or behaviours are considered taboo or stigmatized by one’s culture, religion, or community.

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Expert Development

The Intimacy IQ Test is a joint development by the CUE Team and Jolanda Zeeman, from ideation to completion. Jolanda worked as a classical anthropologist and then became an Intercultural Communication trainer. She had been with the esteemed Training Department of the KIT Royal Tropical Institute in Amsterdam for 15 years, before joining Radboud University. She has vast experience in designing and delivering communication training for Dutch diplomats and corporate C-suit executives and managers. She also had collaborations with renowned companies and institutions, including Philips, DSM, Vanderlande, DAMEN, Thales, DAMCO, the municipalities of Utrecht and Amsterdam, the Hangzhou Board of Tourism, TU Delft, University of Amsterdam, Wageningen University, Radboud University Nijmegen, TU Eindhoven and many others.​

The Secret Behind Our Design

The Intimacy IQ Test is a well-considered micro-learning journey intentionally disguised as "just a fun test." In crafting this tool, we recognized several defining characteristics of student life during their emerging adulthood as they enter higher education:

1) We respect the psychological dynamics of youth in their emerging adulthood––a phase marked by the desire for freedom, self-exploration, and expansion to the larger world.
2) Simultaneously, we do not overlook how this period introduces a new level of responsibility, demanding personal responses to increasingly complex life affairs, while, the protective umbrella of parents, schools, or other adults diminishes.

As a private and introspective learning journey, the Test taps into students' psychological dynamics, channelling their aspirations for autonomy, inner discovery, and outward growth. This mirrors the inclination of many students towards personality tests or astrology during this phase of life. Our approach recognizes the importance of morality, law, and principles while understanding the need for a more engaging strategy that respects the nature of young minds. At the intersection of freedom and personal responsibility, the Intimacy IQ Test guides its learners toward an understanding of consent, sexuality and intimate relationships, creating a foundation for healthy, informed choices in their journey through emerging adulthood.

What To Expect

Enjoyable Learning Process

24 thought-provoking questions that keep your mind engaged and become increasingly curious about your results


Only you can read your results and report. This is a private sex education experience that respect your privacy and an inner dialogue with yourself


Increase self-awareness in your communication style in sex and romance, and understand how it is influenced by cultural norms and societal messages


Receive a 2500-word personalized report that provide invaluable insights to uncover the hidden patterns, desires, and limitations that shape your intimate experiences


Learn a structured approach to understand and improve communication between sex partners, helping one navigates sensitive topics, expresses desires and personal boundaries


Shed light on 8 key areas of growth opportunities for your sex communication skills and provide actionable strategies to cultivate meaningful transformation


Join 16 world-class universities and their student organizations to start a conversation with CUE about the Intimacy IQ Test

A Successful Story

Case Study

In the summer of 2023, CUE partnered with Leiden University’s Introduction Week, named, OWL. During every year’s OWL week, new students engage in a range of interactive and dynamic activities and gain insights into the student experience at the University as well as in the Leiden city and the Netherlands.  

The Intimacy IQ Test was featured on OWL’s app, student handbook and Instagram account. During the 5-day program, from August 28th to September 1st, CUE achieved incredible outcomes together with the OWL team.

Students finished the Intimacy IQ Test and self-educated about sexual consent
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Self-driven in the pursuit of their own sex education and self-discovery
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Traditional workshops or training sessions to educate the same number of young students would have cost over fifty thousand Euros for a one-section learning.
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Institutional Report

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Iterative Enhancement

Since the autumn of 2023, CUE has established a collaborative partnership with Utrecht University's Graduate Gender Programme (GGeP) to conduct comprehensive focus group testing. This strategic collaboration provides a robust foundation for refining and enhancing our offerings. Stay tuned for more updates as we continue to evolve our offerings.


"I would say everyone should take this test! I was impressed how much this test can tell about a person without asking any too personal questions."
- Jill
"My understanding of myself and my sexuality is deepened and I was given suggestions and tools to continue to understand my sexuality in order to build a much healthier and more honest relationship with myself. "​
- Luca

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This program provides intercultural training on sexual consent for young adults studying and living in a multicultural and international environment. It is a modular program that uses storytelling and active learning approaches to engage learners and equip them with essential conceptual tools to own their sexual autonomy.

Program Structure


1) General Introduction
2) Why is sexual consent important
3) Course outline

Module 1

1) A New Life Chapter
2) Emerging Adulthood
3) Personal Boundary

Module 2

1) A New Environment
2) Host Country Culture
3) Sexual Consent 101

Module 3

1) Intercultural Framework
2) Sex Shame
3) Bodily Autonomy

Module 4

1) Peer Dynamics
2) Rape Culture
3) Drug and Alcohol Culture

Module 4

1) Stories of Consensual Sex
2) Practical Local Resources
3) Ending Note

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What To Expect


Engaging content designed to sustain focused attention


Serious education touched with a wise dose of fun and entertainment


Story-based education, root abstract concepts in real life scenarios


Reinforce learning outcomes through mini games and quizzes

Baby Steps

Each video is less than 3 minutes in length, and builds on each other

Tool Box

Downloadable tools for daily use and long term referral

Interdisciplinary Research & Global Literature Review
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Content Development & Design
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Expert Interviews & Consultation
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Purpose of
Impact Initiative

Student Wellbeing

Prioritize mental as well as physical health for individuals, by working directly with administration, student societies, and student bodies


Make campuses safer through education by providing necessary tools and knowledge on safety measures.

Sex Education

Our innovative consent models aim to revolutionize sex education for diverse globalized communities, empowering individuals to make informed decisions.

DEI Awareness

Create a more inclusive and equitable environment, as underrepresented groups thrive in culturally invested institutions

Local Insights

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